ISRAEL & PALESTINE: The 50-Family Fishbowl

How do 50 families live and work together so closely without driving each other crazy? Especially when every other family comes from a culture and background that society tells you to hate? It’s one thing to argue over the town’s budget; it’s quite another to tell each other how to handle the worst tragedy a family can endure. Ten years ago, Tom Kitain was killed in a helicopter accident en route to Lebanon while serving his mandatory duty in the Israeli Army, one month shy of his 21st birthday. tom.jpg This intimate community was devastated, grieving together through its initial shock. Tom was raised in Neve Shalom~Wahat al-Salam’s “oasis of peace.” But, he died participating in the violent conflict these families were protesting. “There is nothing worse than losing a child,” my mother says. She should know: She’s lost 2 of her 3 children. I can’t imagine the fear that freezes her heart every time she learns I’m off to someplace like Iraq or Palestine. Some members of this community wanted to honor Tom with a commemoration and to have the village basketball court renamed in his honor. After all, they felt, he was a victim of war. Other families protested: Tom had died while participating in the intransigent violence against Palestinians. Recalling the blurry days following my brother’s death, when we tried to organize

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the confounding details of his service, I cannot imagine anyone having the guts to suggest we shouldn’t hold one. “The fact that we’re living together doesn’t [mean] we feel the same and think the same. We come from two different backgrounds,” explains Eyas Shbeta, the recently elected director of the village. “We [Palestinians] saw the situation in a different way. I can be sympathetic to my neighbor that his son was killed. I can feel his ache. “Still,” he continues softly, “that doesn’t mean I agree that I should memorialize a soldier. For a Palestinian who lives with the whole oppression, a soldier in the military is still a soldier. The Army is still the Army. “But, I knew Tom, I watched him grow up.“ Abdessalam Najjar, Neve Shalom~Wahat al-Salam’s Spiritual Center director, describes the difficult dynamics people undergo when they are unexpectedly challenged: “When people are exposed to ‘new’ information, their equilibrium and harmony are shaken. First, they try to question the new information: ‘It can’t

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face this issue,” said Shbeta. “We didn’t have the guts before that.” That may be meager solace to a family that will never again enjoy their son’s smile, but it is a huge legacy for a young man to leave his community.

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  1. Marina says:

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  2. Eileen says:

    Wow. The dilema faced by the community of Neve Shalom~Wahat al-Salam is similar to questions we are facing as Americans. What is more important, the second amendment or freedom from the fear of gun violence? How much personal liberty are we willing to sacrifice to be safe from random bombings? I wish more people to have “face the issue” in thoughtful discussions.